Are you a Paedophile?

So, over the past week or so I've seen a number of things of people asking about whether they are a paedo because of this and that, random forum posts etc. Some people actually seemed quite distressed at it.

Well first off, just because you found this one little girl or boy attractive does not make you a paedo. Ask yourself, are you consistently sexually attracted to children under or around pubescence? Do you fantasise, do you long to touch them, to be with them sexually? Even this would not make you a paedo. Do you have any sexual interest in adults? If no, you are probably an exclusive paedophile. If yes, are children your MAIN attraction? Given a free choice where no-one was hurt and no-one would find out, a completely free choice, which would you rather have, a child or an adult? If the answer is a child, then you are probably a non-exclusive paedo.

I personally would advocate that if you are, you just accept it. You are who you are, don't feel bad about it. Don't go shouting it around, might not be a good idea, but accept it. Don't simply repress your feelings and push them away. For me I believe accepting it better lets me control it. I know what my desires are so I can control them better. I think if I was lying to myself I may not be able to control it in certain scenarios. But because I accept what I am, I am not struggling with it, I think it allows me to be in control of it.

If you find childen attractive, but they are not your main interest, I don't really know what that is like so I can't give you any knowledgable advice on repressing it or admitting it to yourself. I always think it's best never to be ashamed of your feelings though.

Though obviously I'd say never act on it. If you start seriously considering doing anything you should get help.